Why is the human penis so much larger than other primates’ penises? Why does it have such a funny and odd shape? In this episode, Kimberly educates her listeners about penile size, shape, and overall prowess. She introduces the concepts of Sperm Competition, Last Male Precedence, Semen Displacement Theory, Health Benefits of Semen, Refractory Period, The “Coolidge Effect,” and Semen Viscosity (relative to female promiscuity). Kimberly quotes research from leading evolutionary biologists to add context to her discussion of penile function and natures miraculous counter adaptations to infidelity.
In this episode, Kimberly introduces her listeners to painful sex. She defines different terms associated with chronic pelvic pain including dyspareunia and vulvodynia, offers statistics on chronic pelvic pain, and gives some clinical examples from her sex therapy practice. She identifies common worries and concerns that women often experience during and after chronic pelvic pain. Kimberly also describes the four potential psychological traps that she has identified based on her work with couples who are dealing with sexual pain. The four traps are 1) The Credibility Issue, 2) Throwing the Baby Out with the Bath Water, 3) De-erotization, and 4) Post-Clearance Collusion.
In this episode, Kimberly answers questions from her listeners about common misperceptions (and red flags) about sex therapy for couples; the prevalence, risk factors, and psychological meaning of ‘golden showers;’ motivations and willingness to perform oral sex; the potential sexual consequences of infertility; and the growing erotic fascination with female ejaculation (also known as ‘squirting’). As usual, Kimberly discusses these (sometimes taboo) subjects with authority, honesty, and compassion.
In this episode, Kimberly interviews marriage and family therapist Jess Levith about her treatment of women with out-of-control sexual behaviors through a cultural and historical lens. To provide context, Kimberly gives a brief overview of how attitudes toward sex in general; and female sexuality in particular, have changed over the centuries. Ms. Levith discusses how some women pathologize themselves (or are pathologized by their partner, family, society, etc.) based on gender stereotypes about Birth Control, Sexual Imagery, Economic Parity, and Intersectionality. She also describes the six pillars of sexual health (based on the World Health Organization definition) and how she uses these concepts with women to help them asses their sexual behaviors, thoughts, and feelings.
In this episode, Kimberly interviews Dr. Marni Feuerman about her new book “Ghosted and Breadcrumbed: Stop Falling for Unavailable Men and Get Smart about Healthy Relationships.” They discuss how awareness of your personal attachment style and psychological boundaries from your family of origin can help you avoid relationships with unavailable men. They comment on how ‘Limerence’ (AKA infatuation or transcendental love) can impair judgement in the beginning of a new relationship and how it allows women to ignore red flags that should not be ignored. They discuss the author’s list of Dating Do’s and Don’ts. They talk about the author’s list of classic ‘types’ of men who are unavailable and how to identify them. Finally, they offer common excuses that married men give to affair partners to justify their behavior, such as “my wife doesn’t have sex with me” or “she’s always depressed, negative and in pain.” This episode also contains a Sex IQ Quiz.
TRIGGER WARNING—This episode of Sex Savvy contains graphic material and specific details about actual murder cases involving sexual torture and necrophilia. In this episode, Kimberly interviews world renowned forensic psychiatrist Dr. Phillip Resnick. His professional body of work, integrity, and expertise are highly respected in the international psychiatric community. He has published more than 200 articles and book chapters about legal insanity as a criminal defense and many other aspects of psychiatry and law. He is an expert witness who has consulted on or testified in many of the most infamous murder trials of the past 45 years. He is a beloved professor and presenter who has been invited to give lectures in more than 25 countries. Kimberly has been fortunate to attend some of his trainings in Europe, Africa and Asia. When there is a mass shooting, a serial killer is on the loose, or a mother murders her own children, Dr. Resnick is always in the short list to be contacted for his expertise. He is the world authority on mothers who kill their own children; and even coined the term, neonaticide, which is when a mother kills her newborn within the first 24 hours of life. Dr. Resnick also happens to be Kimberly’s father and the primary inspiration for her career.
In this episode, Kimberly shares her decoding primer for sexual jargon currently used in the digital world. If you ever wondered what ‘bread-crumbing,’ ‘stashing,’ ‘lovebombing’, ‘zaddy,’ ‘orbiting,’ ‘cuffing,’ ‘phubbing,’ or ‘big dick energy’ is, now is your chance to learn! Kimberly defines more than four dozen hook up/dating terms and phrases in this informative episode. She comments on how, although the names are new, many of the dynamics have been around forever. She addresses the psychology behind many of the terms and tries to frame the underlying motivations for both men and women.
This is Part 2 of a 2-part episode on hook up apps. Kimberly’s guests continue their conversation about why they use hook up apps, why the sex is often unsatisfying, and how they maneuver when there is no chemistry once they get in the bedroom. The women share that they often hold back their orgasms because they feel their hook up partner did not “earn” the privilege of witnessing their authentic orgasm. The go on to share that they “fake” orgasm to avoid upsetting the sex partner or hurting their feelings. This episode also includes a Sex IQ Quiz that you won’t want to miss.
In this episode Kimberly interviews three single millennials (one man and two women) about their experiences, opinions, and insights on hook up apps, such as Tinder, Bumble, and Hatch. They explain which apps for best for just hook ups; and which are better for people seeking more than just sex. They talk about sexual expectations, texting etiquette, male and female insecurities, and why they swipe right or left. They all admit to ‘ghosting’ and the motivations behind it. The ladies discuss “creepy vibes” and how they determine who they will meet in real life. They all agree that sex is less intimate than meeting people’s friends and families. Each guest shares their pet peeves and things they simply can’t resist.
In this episode Kimberly interviews a longstanding client about his sexless relationship and his ambivalence regarding his masculinity and sexual energy. He explains why he believes masculinity is inherently aggressive and predatory; and how his lifelong ambivalence about his masculinity made it difficult for him to express his erotic interests/needs in his relationship. He further explains how expectations (sexual and otherwise) feel burdensome to him. He recalls a story from his youth when a girl gave him ‘love notes’ at school and it made him angry and embarrassed because she ‘expected’ something from him that he could not (and did not want to) deliver. He candidly describes his ongoing struggles with intimacy and commitment. In her own special way, Kimberly facilitates an honest, compelling, and therapeutic dialogue that allows her client to share his sexual story with authenticity and humor.