• Episode 17: “My Penis is a Battering Ram” – One Man’s Sexual Story

    In this episode Kimberly interviews a longstanding client about his sexless relationship and his ambivalence regarding his masculinity and sexual energy. He explains why he believes masculinity is inherently aggressive and predatory; and how his lifelong ambivalence about his masculinity made it difficult for him to express his erotic interests/needs in his relationship. He further explains how expectations (sexual and otherwise) feel burdensome to him. He recalls a story from his youth when a girl gave him ‘love notes’ at school and it made him angry and embarrassed because she ‘expected’ something from him that he could not (and did not want to) deliver. He candidly describes his ongoing struggles with intimacy and commitment. In her own special way, Kimberly facilitates an honest, compelling, and therapeutic dialogue that allows her client to share his sexual story with authenticity and humor.

Latest Episodes

Episode 10: ABDL Part 2

This is part two of a two-part episode on Paraphilic Infantilism, also known as Adult Baby Syndrome. Kimberly shares some of the feedback she received from listeners about the interview with an Adult Baby Diaper Lover (ABDL) in Part 1. She reads from a famous ABDL’s personal memoir about the “moment” he discovered his attraction to diapers. Kimberly also interviews a ‘professional Mommy’ who describes her ABDL-friendly salon where clients can engage in ‘age play,’ regress to very young childhood, and live out their infantile fantasies.

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Episode 9: Adult Baby Diaper Lovers – Part 1

This is part one of a two-part episode on Paraphilic Infantilism, also known as Adult Baby Syndrome. Kimberly describes behaviors associated with this rare fetish, as well as theories, the typical profile, history of the fetish, and resources available. She interviews an Adult Baby Diaper Lover (ABDL) who shares his story and describes the role of the fetish in his life.

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Episode 8: Condoms, Couples & Conversations

In this episode, Kimberly highlights and discusses three recently published sexual health studies. The first study highlights variables that determine the number of sexual partners in individuals over age 50. The second study discusses condom negotiation strategies in adults age 18-25. The third study discusses how people who engage in Consensual Non-Monogamy (CNM) experience barriers to healthcare. After a chock-full “Sex IQ Quiz,” Kimberly interviews sex researcher, educator and therapist Dr. Bridget Finn about her newly published book, “Inspired Vagina, Capable Penis.” Kimberly and Bridget also discuss trends in their respective sex therapy practices.

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Episode 7: Covert Incest

In this episode, Kimberly discusses “Covert Incest,” a type of abuse in which parents turn to their children for the emotional support and intimacy they would normally receive from a spouse or partner. When covert incest is present, a son or daughter feels more like a romantic partner than a child. There is a pattern of consistent boundary-crossings which leave the child feeling responsible for the parent’s emotional needs (which often leads to intimacy and sexual disorders in future relationships). There is typically no overt sexual contact, but rather, a nuanced ‘adultification’ of the child, where they end up feeling like a ‘surrogate spouse.’ Kimberly interviews Paul Gilmartin, comedian and host of The Mental Illness Happy Hour Podcast, who describes how the covert incest he experienced from his mother negatively impacted his sexual, emotional, and psychological development.

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Episode 6: Dominance & Submission: Sex or Psychology?

In this episode, Kimberly interviews a professional Dominatrix, Mistress Damiana Chi, about her take on the psychology behind dominance and submission. Mistress Damiana, who holds a PhD in Psychology, describes the range of domination her clients are seeking, including foot worship, spanking, caning, and “cock-and-ball torture.” She describes how the Master/Slave dynamic can be healing, in emotional, intellectual, erotic, and spiritual ways. She explains the difference between Lifestyle Dommes and Professional Dommes. She also describes four archetypes that she uses in her work—the “Authoritarian,” the “Mother,” the “Seductress,” and the “Queen.”

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Episode 5: Sexual Maladies and Mysteries

In this episode, Kimberly discusses two sex-related conditions. The first is Post Coital Headaches. Kimberly explains what causes these painful headaches, how common they are, how serious they are, who is vulnerable to experience them, and available treatment options. She also educates listeners on Post Finasteride Syndrome, a debilitating condition that affects sexual, mental, physical, and neurological health in men. She offers alarming statistics on suicides related to this incurable syndrome. She describes the day-to-day impact of this condition on one of her male patients. She also answers a listener’s question about the impact of his fiance’s kidney disease on her sexual desire and their overall relationship.

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